Often, people get into introspective moments and conclude that they are not all that great. That perhaps they will never be happy at work, in love or in anything. They might have a poor body image, or believe themselves to be not very intelligent, or anything. What do you do when you care about such a person, and tell them what you really think; that they look great or are more intelligent than most people they know, but the words just fall flat against their despair?
What do you do? How long can you go on believing in the best of that person when they do not believe themselves? You can only build someone up so long before you get tired and stop doing that for a bit. It's not even necessarily that you have to do this all that often. It's that someone you care about is hurting because things may not be going well for them, or they don't feel very good about themselves, and there isn't much you can do about it. It's frustrating, especially when you know that ultimately, it isn't your responsibility no matter how you feel about the person.
I consider it a responsibility to try to bring someone close to you up when they are down, but it is hard to be creative when it comes to this. I think it's easier when you are young, but in the last seven or eight years life has become too complicated for simple compliments. Maybe solid solutions are required. A simple listening ear may no longer be adequate.
You want to help, but it's hard to know what to do anymore.
What do you do? How long can you go on believing in the best of that person when they do not believe themselves? You can only build someone up so long before you get tired and stop doing that for a bit. It's not even necessarily that you have to do this all that often. It's that someone you care about is hurting because things may not be going well for them, or they don't feel very good about themselves, and there isn't much you can do about it. It's frustrating, especially when you know that ultimately, it isn't your responsibility no matter how you feel about the person.
I consider it a responsibility to try to bring someone close to you up when they are down, but it is hard to be creative when it comes to this. I think it's easier when you are young, but in the last seven or eight years life has become too complicated for simple compliments. Maybe solid solutions are required. A simple listening ear may no longer be adequate.
You want to help, but it's hard to know what to do anymore.
