Gripes About Women: July 2004 Archives

"I don't see what the point of life is."
"I don't know why I keep going on."
"Life is a sexually transmitted disease."

I know that the older I get, the more people I meet. But it seems as though the more people I meet, the more likely they are to be depressed, bitter or both. I had lunch with a coworker today. We were in the kitchen and she just looked like shit. I mean, depressed, that is.

I asked her what was wrong and she said that she was having trouble with her boyfriend. Then we got into a discussion of various things, and it turns out that she is a Sad Girl. She is a failure, nothing works out, people suck, there's nothing new under the sun, blah, blah, blah. I basically said that life isn't that bad (she countered that it is worse), and thought to myself that I won't bother with people who are like that all the time. I have enough on my plate emotionally as it is.

UPDATE 8/10: She broke up with her boyfriend. She still seems negative and mean.

So I'm told that it is wrong to say, "You look great today", because there is a definite implication that yesterday you didn't look great, and it doesn't matter whether or not it's true. I'd just like to say that there is no reason to believe this, in general. Why not think that the man means that you look particularly good today? And what is wrong with this? That's what it means, at least when I say it.

This really bugs me. But maybe I'm just "sensitive" right now.

If a woman works to make some improvement to her looks, or if the light hits her just the right way, why is it that when you compliment them, they usually say in an accusatory and defensive tone, "What, so you didn't like X before?"